Knowing that a divorce is coming means you have time to prepare. You can learn about your parental rights, find out what it will cost, gather the proper paperwork and generally just learn as much about the process as possible. After all, divorce mistakes may impact the rest of your life. Preparation is key.
That said, maybe you know you will not file for divorce. What you can’t control is whether or not your spouse decides to do so. Since this is out of your hands, you need to understand what red flags to watch out for and, if you see them, that means it’s time to begin that preparation to put yourself in the best possible position during the legal proceedings.
You may have unique red flags
You know your spouse. The relationship the two of you have is unique. This could mean red flags look different to you than they would to someone else. For instance, if your spouse is always talkative and outgoing and they start acting very quiet and withdrawn around you, that could mean they’re contemplating ending the marriage. On the other hand, someone with a quiet and introverted spouse may think nothing of it.
All that said, here are a few common red flags to begin with. Consider them along with your unique factors.
- Your spouse spends more time with friends than with you.
- It feels like your spouse enjoys the long hours at the office and stays late on purpose.
- You do not have any common hobbies or activities.
- You do not talk about important things or little things; in short, there is very little communication.
- The physical side of your relationship declines or essentially disappears.
- When you do talk or spend time together, it feels awkward.
- Many little disagreements seem to turn into major fights.
- They start taking up many new hobbies and making major life changes — without you.
Do you believe that you are going to get divorced? Start considering all of your legal options as soon as you can, learning as much as possible about the process and your rights.