Make no mistake, divorce is difficult. However, things can become unbearable if you are divorcing an individual with a personality disorder.
If you find yourself in a difficult situation where you have to sever ties with a narcissist, it is important that you back up and grow some balls – because there is a pretty good chance the ride is going to be nasty.
If your marriage is over and you have decided to divorce your narcissistic spouse, there are a couple of things you can do to ease the stress. Here are some of these steps:
Get some help
Divorce is, in and of itself, an emotionally taxing process. And divorcing a narcissist is even more draining, which is why you should never walk this road alone. Seeking counseling can help you maintain your cool and ensure that you cope with the stresses that come with divorcing a difficult spouse.
Have clear boundaries
While your marriage may not have been characterized by clear and healthy boundaries, the importance of setting ground rules during the divorce cannot be overstated. A narcissist will do everything to get under your skin. As such, it is in your best interest that you make clear what you will (and will not) allow going forward.
Keep a record of everything
Narcissists lie — a lot. They will say anything to paint you in a negative light or have their way. If you have any conversation that might come up in court, be sure to record it. Additionally, be sure to go through your assets to be certain that your spouse is not up to anything fishy.
The only thing tougher than living with a narcissist is divorcing them. Find out how you can safeguard your rights and interests while divorcing a difficult spouse.